Time and Interaction
I have discovered that people have a difficult time with changes in people they know. It is extremely hard for people to accept that the person they know now might not be the same person they used to know. They expect you, even after years of seperation, to act like you used to. This is a general issue for humanity and something that needs constant work even for those who seek to embrace more enlightenen behavior.
Life is not a stillshot. Life is not a moment frozen in time but a constant flowing in a direction that may never be revealed. The world is not in the same place it was two years ago why should an individual be the same after the same time period. I will use myself as a prime example. I am nowhere near the same person I was two years ago. The changes over a ten year period are even more pronounced.
I have changed a great deal. Ten years ago I was not a happy person. I was not even a particularly nice person. Of course, I was trying to live the life of a dark intended person. I was self-centered, greedy and only concerned with the facets of my own life. In many ways I was incapable of deep meaningful relationships. The pursuit of that life brought me to the edge of dissolution several times before I learned. The universe had many lessons to teach me and I have learned them well.
The pursuit of the selfish life will only lead you to chaos and destruction. There is no future in it. There never really was but our culture wants you to think that there is. We are fed the illusory visions that being selfish and self-centered will make you famous and rich. In addition, we are taught that self-reliance is the only way to truly succeed. These are the very essense of untruth. We are part of a great web of interaction that encompasses more than most ever realize. We rely on other people to provide services that we cannot provide for ourselves. We rely on the great food circle to provide us with the energy of life. We are never alone.
The things we send out into life have a way of coming back to us. A contemporary saying is, "what goes around comes around." If you send out aggressive energy you will get people who want to fight with you. If you send out uncompassionate energy you will get people who don't care about you. If you send out anger then you will get people who will hate you. At the same time, if you send out compassionate feelings then you will get back good relationships. If you send out harmony you will get people who want to help you. It is all there to find. The question becomes one of which gains the better results.
It is easy to assume that the angry, aggressive person will get better results. This is not correct. Most people don't want to have to deal with harmful people. These kinds of people tend to end up with friends and no really in-depth relationships. People don't want to associate with people who are difficult to live with. This is where the choice comes in. Which do you want to associate with? I know whom I will choose.